Slate Reader Discovers Date Is Bisexual and Never Uses Condoms

The reader, who wanted to wait before having sex and would have insisted on condoms until exclusivity, is unsure whether to confront him or ghost him. The advice column suggests that if the goal is to change his behavior, a conversation is unlikely to help, and if the goal is to avoid ghosting, silence is acceptable unless he reaches out, given the casual nature of their single date. The column also addresses a second question from a 20-year-old nonbinary asexual virgin about whether their discomfort with vaginal penetration indicates a medical issue or is normal, noting that clinical experiences differ from partnered sex and that such feelings are not necessarily a sign of a problem.